I’M NOT HAVING IT

                                     

Hey Shiners and Shinettes!  Yes, it has been a while but I have been getting one-step closer to my Bachelors degree and I will graduate in August of this year!  

Alright, let me get back to the point of this post.  Lately I have been seeing so many good people frustrated over another’s foolish actions.  When I see this, it saddens me because I know they are good people.  Well to this, I say the buck stops right here and now!  It is time to stand up for what you believe in and take your happiness back.  It is not for them to take and it is time to put up the “I’M NOT HAVING IT SIGN” and stand by it to the fullest. 

See darlings, we cannot allow these type of people to come in and try to rock our worlds leave us frustrated, confused, angry and ready to fight.  That is where they want us to be-in the depths of misery just like them.  As the saying goes misery loves company.  Moreover, to that I say, “I’M NOT HAVING IT” I rather be alone than to deal with negativity like that. 

These people are jealous of your calmness, smiles, laughter, or anything that keeps you on the up and up.

So how do we get rid of them?  You would think this is an easy answer, which it is, however, so many do not follow their own rules.  These days, we cannot keep giving these people the power to get to us.  All it takes is a small crack and they are in and thus the reap havoc on our lives.  Well here is how we stop them. Here are the rules and the penalty for breaking any of the rules are the “I’M NOT HAVING IT SIGN AND TOTAL DISMISSAL FROM OUR LIVES”

                                                 

1. If they are negative

2. If they LIE

3. If they pray on your downfall

4. Constantly talking about someone

5. Stealing

6. Bragging to bring you down

7. Don’t lift you up

8. Never there for you but you for them

9. Cheat

10. Betray you

11. Never sees eye to eye to keep you arguing

12. Never supports you

I know there are much more but this is just a start…if we can apply this to any of the people around us then they deserve the penalty for it.  It is time to set our standards once again and hold others accountable. There is no need in asking why they are like this.  They will not change and they should be removed.  How many times can we allow someone that we know to practice these acts?  It is hard at times but I say “I’M NOT HAVING IT” and you will be removed.  Keep positive people around you, who are for you and want to keep you up and positive.  Trust me you will see the difference in no time.  

Therefore, it is time to stop the ranting and raving and get to cleaning up our positive aura….Negativity does not look good on any of us!  

Are you NOT HAVING it ANYMORE?? 

I got "A NEW ATTITUDE"

                                                   

      Hello Once again Shiners and Shinettes!

      Oh this post is on a mission….I “GOT A NEW ATTITUDE!!!”

Let me explain what I mean….My wires got crossed!  I am positive as can be but you know what?  I realized that I am sometimes negative towards myself.  Hey, I never said I was perfect and sure enough I so practice what I preach!  I think that we all go through this at times.  Well I had to catch myself, and lately some things have been hitting me like a brick.  I have been going through some trials, work issues, weight issues, confidence issues, compliment acceptance…darlings I feel like I am going out of my mind.  I have actually stared at myself in the mirror and said “Melissa WTH is wrong with you get it together.” 

 It is funny that my mom called me one day, we started talking, and to be honest we learned from each other.  I began speaking to her about my job issue, and then she said something…”it will happen when God wants it to happen” Ah Ha!  That was it!  I wanted this job issue to happen on my time.  Granted they gave a deadline and I am expecting them to hold good to it.  I became frustrated and even angry to be honest.  I like many do not like to be toyed with and I am trying to live my life and take care of my family.  However, I forgot about what I am supposed to do.  I am supposed to let God do his work and be patient.  Now it gets deeper, as we continue to talk she is telling me her story.  As she finished, I said well mom did you talk to God about it.  She admitted, no for some reason I wanted it done when I wanted it done.  Ha, how about we just learned the same lesson but different situations. 

See darlings we can only do but so much before, we realize that, we are not in control here at all.  We may get down on ourselves about so many things but as long as we seek the lord, the answers will be provided.  Therefore, you know this is why I “GOT A NEW ATTITUDE!”  I will no longer forget to seek him when I need him, (he already knows), I will no longer try to make things happen on MY time, I will no longer lack confidence because that is not me I am confident, I will no longer talk negative about my weight.  I got a new attitude yall!  It is so easy to forget the major things in life when the things that really do not matter bog us down!  What matters is to seek the most positive being I know.  At the end of the day we all should get a new attitude and remain positive about any and everything.  Forgetting nothing and remembering that it is ok to obtain “A NEW ATTITUDE!” So from here on out I will continue to do everything that I have been doing beside trying to do things on my time….

So What are you going to get a new attitude about?? Let do this together!

P.S. Thanks mom for the talk!

Too Much Work….NOT Enough Play

              

                         Too Much Work….NOT Enough Play

                                                  

Oh, goodness I know it has been a while since my last post, but to be honest, I have had three titles and forgot them all.  Well not this time.  I usually try my hardest to remember a title but dang-nab-it I forgot…..moving along!  LOL

Many of us work, work, and work.  Many of us have forgotten how to be carefree and do what we used to do…”HAVE FUN”  We have to be here, here, and there for this one that one and whoever else.  We are always in demand….but when do we play?  Sheesh to be a kid again….I am sitting here blogging listening to the kids play, shout, laugh and just be kids.  Ahhhhh to be a kid again!  Well you know what-this is one weekend that I do not feel well,but guess who is going to have fun?????  ME That’s WHO! 

I mean really, I so wish that you could hear and see them.  They are all laughing, telling harmless jokes, chasing each other, playing tag, running in and out of the house (yeah that part drives me nuts) but they are having so much fun.  Do you remember being that care free when you were a child??  I know I do!!!  I remember being just like them….being the popular kids, somebody always asking for my brothers and I to come out and play.  It would be non-stop….I would love to get those times back. 

  I know we have to work but hey why can’t we have a day when we say bunk the domestics (unless they are seriously out of control LOL) and do what you want.  Go shopping, buy something nice, buy your favorite dish, do something that you haven’t done in a long time…me…I’m going to jump me some double-dutch, get me a funnel cake (yeah so fattening) and I am not going to do a drop of homework until Sunday afternoon! 

 That’s right I’m doing me…which is having FUN!  I am going to paint my nails, toes, let my daughter play in my hair, sit on the step and listen to the laughter of the kids!  That is fun! 

So Shiners & Shinettes…what will you do to claim some fun back in your life!!! Start today Start NOW!

......WELL JUST FOR A LITTLE WHILE! :)

                                             

Take the First Step!!

 One foot in front of the other!

Hey Hey Shiners & Shinettes….I was thinking and said you know that where would we be if we did not take chances?  I think that many of us would be still standing still and confused. 

Where am I going with this you ask, well walk with me and I will show you.

Many times when we are unsure of the next step we may not step.  Fear keeps us from putting one foot in front of the other.  Last week I wrote about needing a stepladder to pull you up and now I am blogging about taking steps.  The name of the game is to stop standing still and take the grand steps to get to the top.  It is time for us to stop being our own roadblock.  It is time for us to say "you know what I am going to take that first step and whatever happens-happens."

Granted even when we do that we may not achieve the results that we desire….but guess what who cares!  You had the guts to step out of faith and looked it dead in the eyes and said” Fear NOT I can do this~one foot in front of the other!!”  This is how it started even when we were kids…we were so scared to take that first step to do what we have never done before.  Mommy or daddy said come on take that first step and we may have stood there looking so scared.  Then we wanted to get to that special one who raised us, and goodness what did we just do???  We took a step, as scary as that may have been…we took that first step.  Yes, we may have fallen down but the next steps get faster and faster.

See darlings, we cannot be afraid to put one foot in front of the other, we have to keep stepping!!  We have to keep moving for the greater goal in life….the dream is right there waiting for us to snatch it up and have our way.  All the dreams, goals, love, test, designs, meetings, jobs, hugs, phone calls, words, phrases, even apologies are waiting for you to put one foot in front of the other and take that first step. 

Do not let the unknown keep you from doing what you love, all you need to do is put that one blessed foot in front of the other and keep on stepping!  You have the ability to do anything just make sure that you take the deep breathe, and pick up your foot and take that great step towards your dreams! Its waiting for you! 

Need A Step Ladder???

Hey there Shiners & Shinettes!

I’m back and on the move again towards my long life goal….you guessed it Positivity! (Not that it went any where)

I know I have stepped back from writing but…that has all ended.  So here goes!!!

                                                              Step Ladder

                                                 

Have any of you wonderful Shiners/Shinettes used a step ladder before?? I’m sure that you have…if not you just may have stepped on a good ole chair to boost you up just a bit.  The thing is darlings; we sometimes need a little boost to reach what we want. 

Many times when we want to do something we may not have the proper means to do it, but if we had that step ladder to reach just a bit higher we would be able to accomplish that much more.

Many times we want to give up….Never give up! Get on that step ladder and boost yourself up.  Many times things don’t go our way…Never give up! Get on that step ladder and give yourself that needed boost to look for a different avenue to see new change.

See guys, I needed that step ladder a little while ago.  For awhile, I thought that I could do some things on my own.  I never asked for help and by NOT doing so I began to get the notion to give up!  Well if anyone knows me “IM NO QUITTER”.

I know I can be honest with you darlings….haven’t we all been there when we just want to give up because things are not going our way…no matter how hard we try to make things right?? So if you can say “YES” to this then you know where I am coming from.  Well…I had to tell my stubborn self, that I needed to get up and get a little boost.  Many of us live with negativity day in and day out...well I refused to let that get me down once again!!!!

Negativity comes at us all kinds of ways, for example, words, actions, social networking, family, and mainly US! Yeah I said it OURSELVES!  We-Us-You-Me, will be our worst negative energy when things don’t go our way, when we read or feed into the mess we see before us.  Well I am here to say, STOP these actions and get on the step ladder.

It is time for us to get out of our personal-defiant ruts and step up on that good ole sturdy step ladder of positivity.  Pour positive things into our minds and lives.  No longer will we be the cause of us not being as positive as we can be!!  We will only surround ourselves with positive like minded people, we will turn away from negative news, no gossip, we will not be used and abuse but another's negativity!

We as Shiners and Shinettes are way better than that!

So I ask you Shiner and Shinettes….NEED A STEP LADDER!??  If so you can borrow mine!  Sharing is caring and best believe I care about each and every one of you!!  Soooooo let's get on the good foot and Step up for Positivity!

~Positive We Stand~

Ms. Positivity!!

I miss you.....Positivity Shines AGAIN!

Hey there Shiners and Shinettes!

I know it has been a while for us to chat and for that I am deeply apologetic.

Granted I have been away with the major new changes at work, new changes in my life (engaged), school (finals) and new changes to come I have missed you guys dearly!  When I say that I am entirely sincere.

Each of you that I know and even if I don't know are like my second family.  You know when you are away for too long you get home sick....and you know what my darlings I am just that home sick!

I have used the word CAN'T so much it hurts.  I can't do this I can't do that! All of these other things drain me to my core but its never a day that goes by that I do not think about you guys!

Sooooooo since I have some time on my hands (finals are over) I wanted to let you wonderful Shiners and Shinettes know that I am back and here to stay!  Each of you are important to me and I can't have you guys feeling as though I don't care or that I went away!

So let's start over, talk through our ups and downs, smile, laugh, and hang in there for we are the meaning of POSITIVITY! I can't help you guys scrub away the negativity and positively shine if I'm not here! Well I am here and we will tackle Negativity to the ground! We will not be bullied into giving up our positivity for negativity away! So Excuse me...I'm Ms. Positivity and We meaning my Shiners & Shinettes will not be broken!  So here is to Positively Shining together!

Positive We Stand!

Getting Back to "ME" Guest Post by Chasing Joy!!

Absolutely Deciding To Get Back To Being Me

Hey Shinners and Joy Chasers.  A couple weeks ago Ms. Positivity asked me to do a guest post on her themed series of getting back to me.  Of course I was honored to be asked but I also like the idea of her series.  I mean after all the entire reason I started writing the blog Chasing Joy is because I needed to get back t o being me.  I had been through the worst experience of my life (find my story on my about me page on www.chasing-joy.com) and needed to get back to being my normal happy self.

So how did I get back to being me?  How do you get back to being you when you’ve lost yourself to work, school, kids, relationships, disappointment, stress, grief, or whatever?  For starters who are you?  I think we all have to have a few absolutes we know about ourselves.  Once you have decided on these absolutes you they become your guides, your beacons in the darkness, that guide you back to yourself.

Here are some of my absolutes:

I am smart

I am a good person

I am attractive

I have faith

I am a happy person

Things will happen in life that will cause you to question even doubt your absolutes.  But they are absolutes for a reason.  No matter what happens you do not abandon your absolutes.  No matter what anyone says, anyone does, or what happens I refuse to believe anything contrary to the statements above. 

Two years ago my dad died.  I had prayed so hard for healing for him but that was not God’s plan.  I was and still am heartbroken.  Now at that time I could have given up on my faith.  I could have said how can there be a God that would let this happen?  But I didn’t.  Now I was feeling lower than ever in my life and I guess you could say I was angry with God. Regardless of how I was feeling in that moment I decided that I was not going to give up on my faith. 

So that very night I said my prayers.  Now I will admit that my heart was not in it and I kind of just went through the motions.  I think my prayer went something like “God, I don’t know what to say”.  But the point is I was still talking to him and despite all the pain that I was in I still believed.  I had made a decision that part of what it is to be me is to have faith. So no matter what I will have Faith.

The fact of the matter is no matter what happens in life, if you stick to your absolutes, what it means to be you, you will never completely lose yourself.  You will always come back to being you.  You may get of your game sometimes.  Life may get the best of you.  But, even if it takes a while, when you know the absolutes that make you who you are, you will find your way back to being you.

Who are you? What are your absolutes? What are the qualities about yourself that you can fall back to bring you back to being you???

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